Gossip, slander, being a Lightworker…an oxymoron or so one would suppose.
Recently I had several things that were allegedly said by me, but in truth never were said. They were the product of nothing but ugly gossip.
For myself when someone approaches me with an alleged wrong or slur someone said, I always tell them that unless I hear it directly from the person themselves, I refuse to acknowledge the information.
As Lightworkers I think it's important that we do not give place to the insanity of ugly gossip, or he said, she said. I think we not only have to take the stance that such gossip is inappropriate; it is unworthy of a person who calls themselves a Lightworker. It is our duty to stop such talk right in its tracks, and let the person know who is giving the information that such talk is unwelcome and harmful. One also has to question the motive of someone who is willing to spread slander and slurs with malicious glee. What positive outcome could there be if one person managed to allow their tongue to stray against another, and those words were subsequently conveyed to them? How could there be any good, any light, any healing from such an action? Such actions are at best treacherous. They betray a simple trust. The tongue becomes a weapon of destruction rather than an instrument of peace.
The person who is the victim of such gossip is then put in a completely untenable position. They could try to deny the allegations, but such denial simply adds fuel to the fire. They can take the moral high ground and refuse to address the allegations, but then they are often left with the loss of the friends or acquaintances involved in the situation. There is no happy resolution to such a situation.
As Lightworkers we either are going to channel light, healing, wellness, and wholeness, or we will not. The power of this is in our words and intentions. There is simply no room to be a Lightworker and allow this into our lives. The minute we do we have lost the right to call ourselves Lightworkers. We must eschew any form of gossip, evil speech. No matter what we think has been said, we must always believe the best, pray for those who have wronged us, and continue in the path of Light. To do anything less is to bring shame to the name of a Lightworker.
Recently I had several things that were allegedly said by me, but in truth never were said. They were the product of nothing but ugly gossip.
For myself when someone approaches me with an alleged wrong or slur someone said, I always tell them that unless I hear it directly from the person themselves, I refuse to acknowledge the information.
As Lightworkers I think it's important that we do not give place to the insanity of ugly gossip, or he said, she said. I think we not only have to take the stance that such gossip is inappropriate; it is unworthy of a person who calls themselves a Lightworker. It is our duty to stop such talk right in its tracks, and let the person know who is giving the information that such talk is unwelcome and harmful. One also has to question the motive of someone who is willing to spread slander and slurs with malicious glee. What positive outcome could there be if one person managed to allow their tongue to stray against another, and those words were subsequently conveyed to them? How could there be any good, any light, any healing from such an action? Such actions are at best treacherous. They betray a simple trust. The tongue becomes a weapon of destruction rather than an instrument of peace.
The person who is the victim of such gossip is then put in a completely untenable position. They could try to deny the allegations, but such denial simply adds fuel to the fire. They can take the moral high ground and refuse to address the allegations, but then they are often left with the loss of the friends or acquaintances involved in the situation. There is no happy resolution to such a situation.
As Lightworkers we either are going to channel light, healing, wellness, and wholeness, or we will not. The power of this is in our words and intentions. There is simply no room to be a Lightworker and allow this into our lives. The minute we do we have lost the right to call ourselves Lightworkers. We must eschew any form of gossip, evil speech. No matter what we think has been said, we must always believe the best, pray for those who have wronged us, and continue in the path of Light. To do anything less is to bring shame to the name of a Lightworker.
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Wed, October 3, 2007 - 6:00 AM~~well stated...ty ~<:-)ox
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Sun, October 7, 2007 - 11:41 AMI agree. I need to work on this myself. -
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Sun, October 7, 2007 - 3:17 PMlightworkers,bakers,cleaners,gardeners,artists,models...actors...monks...clergy...politicians...you name it...we are all people underneath the title of work or roles...and gossiping and slander is something we can easily get caught up in as its acceptable behaviour for something to do socially...yet it is destructive and creates drama and a focus off our own life and puts the focus onto another...
Something I need to do is think before I speak...is this supportive?is this creating harmony? is this my truth and not my ego? is this necessary?
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Mon, October 8, 2007 - 3:29 PMjust curious-why would there be any ugliness at all if one works with light? Deflect it? -
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Mon, October 8, 2007 - 3:32 PMand one more step would be...why judge it ?Why not bless it and keep smiling?
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Tue, October 9, 2007 - 8:47 PMgood topic robin. gossip can be pretty toxic. ive been on the receiving end enough times. now im EXTREMELY mindful of not participating, encouraging, etc. that kind of thing... just too nasty a pit to continue to be involved with...
and i think youre right, if not now, when? and if not us, who?
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Wed, October 10, 2007 - 6:44 AMI try to understand why it is happening. Most people do not intend to do harm. For those that do, I try to understand what would lead them to that and transmute it. Often times, I find that with a little compassion and understanding, you can get someone to stop hurting themselves and others. -
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Wed, October 10, 2007 - 9:40 AMyes robin, it is nearly impossible for one to raise their vibration and ascend while at the same time feeding negativity and gossip. by the time one is in the situation to assist others in healing, you would hope that one would have learned those lessons already. i feel its our responibility as lightworkers to have already released these old habits that society has put on us in order to move to a higher place of love. for healing to happen, one must be coming from the heart and only have positive intentions. this is our chance to lead by example and question these people when they are doing it, and help them to realize this negative pattern. yvette has a good point that if we give them some compassion, love and understanding they may be more likely to realize what they are doing is harming themselves as well. thanks so much robin for being so open and giving us all a chance to learn and grow from your experience. these snags in the road are places of learning and growing, and if handeled in the right way can strengthen our love.
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Fri, October 12, 2007 - 7:04 PMto be a true lightworker, one must always breath forgiveness... equanimity and forgiveness
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Fri, October 12, 2007 - 8:16 PMyep, forgiveness is the basis of unconditional love. good stuff.
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Tue, October 23, 2007 - 8:13 PMthank you for these words, i am in a daily situation where slander is constantly thrown out by a superior where i work. gossip and slander are very draining of one's energy, i am hoping to find a new job soon... -
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Re: gossip, slander and lightworkers
Wed, October 24, 2007 - 9:29 AMI know what you mean. There are some DJs and promoters who *think* that they're "all that" and they have nothing to say but bad things to me, or bad things about me to others and I know it's not true. What I usually suggest for ANYONE to do (whether it's regarding my own self being slandered or someone else) is to "SEEK TO UNDERSTAND FIRST". Meaning, go to the source and ask questions and get to know the person. There's just one freak that just doesn't leave me alone and he's a complete A--. No one gripes about his PsyTrance mixes (even though he's a good DJ) so, he should leave me and everyone else the f**k alone.
It's like I remember on the movie "Taken"... the blonde girl (who was in War of the Worlds) who narrated it and was in the movie... she said it's like you have 2 kids on a playground. When one pushes the other one (and makes them fall down), the person who did the pushing is really the person who is afraid.
I feel sorry for those who bully. They're a--holes. Perhaps if they push too far, they'll be drinking out of a straw the rest of their life, because they surely don't want to f**k with me. Ok- that's my 15% bipolar coming out. Sorry.
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